WisteriaSky233 's dagbok, 23 maj 24

Read the very last word of your post.  

@Yearofhealth2023 he grilled me about having a side guy. I said I had a friend I was close to and an emotional affair happened. Nothing physical. And actually that friend has disappeared again for the record. But now Hubs will forever think I left for a man not the abuse. He has my parents thinking I'm some skank. More narcissistic abuse.  

Everyone’s definition of an affair is different. In my relationship an emotional affair is just as much of a betrayal. I am not judging you btw as everyone is different. However, the one thing has nothing to do with the other. Verbal, physical or emotional abuse is not acceptable nor healthy for either party actually. You can’t control what your parents think it sounds like so you should just work on what is best for your own physical and emotional well being. I have said it before, he is much too old to change his spots and it is not often that such a vast age difference works out. You are in two very different stages in life, even without the abuse. Whether the guy you were close to is in the picture or not you have to take care of your own well being. Others have said the same to you-draw your line in the sand and dont keep moving the line. Interacting with him, allowing him to move back in those are all movements in the sand. I wish the best for you. You are much too young to be so clearly unhappy. 

I’m sorry that you are going thru this crap. Hopefully it will get better ! 

I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this. 

Prayers for discernment. 

Congratulations on fitting into your favorite jeans. Do remember to get good nutrition during these stressful times. Glad you're spending time with girlfriends. No offense intended, but I wonder if you're on the fence about "hubs" - sounds like an affectionate nickname that you still like for him. I'm decades older than you, and have discovered that romantic dancing doesn't have the staying power of romantic behavior like taking a job, even driving interstate, to pay down some of the debt he put on your cards. I wish you peace and discernment as you decide how you want t 

@HealtyNow I try no to name names hence the nickname. I got him removed from my credit cards tonight. And I have access to his emails and he joined some weird site to monitor my online presence. Freaked me out. Also my mom's phone number and Lord knows who else. He is pretending all is fine but I'm more creeped out by the day.  

@HealtyNow I try no to name names hence the nickname. I got him removed from my credit cards tonight. And I have access to his emails and he joined some weird site to monitor my online presence. Freaked me out. Also my mom's phone number and Lord knows who else. He is pretending all is fine but I'm more creeped out by the day.  

@HealtyNow I try no to name names hence the nickname. I got him removed from my credit cards tonight. And I have access to his emails and he joined some weird site to monitor my online presence. Freaked me out. Also my mom's phone number and Lord knows who else. He is pretending all is fine but I'm more creeped out by the day.  

Wisteria is it time for a restraining order? That is very controlling behavior and very concerning. Do you have a safety plan in place with a trusted person. Look up when Georgia smiles or something like that. There is an app developed by dr Phil and his wife where you can install an innocuous looking app on your phone that can be activated to record and call for help if you are in danger. Sounds like you might need to set up something like that. What ever attracted you to this guy? Seems way too old for you, employment challenged and credit challenged. You deserve a healthy life friend.