WisteriaSky233 's dagbok, 14 mar 24

Your in a bad situation, if he ever hit you it would be time to leave, maybe you can get him some help to find out why he feels the way he does or if your really done then leave. 

Sounds like deflection and passive aggressive. You should start doing research on what is needed to get out. Finances, living situation, legal. Sounds like you are done regardless so may as well start doing the work to move forward. 

Wisteria, life is much too short and precious to be filled with so much turmoil, im sure nausea and knots in your tummy. There is a lot to be said for a life that is peaceful and fill with people who uplift you and who view marriage as a partnership wherein your job is to be the best version of yourself you can be and make your spouses life better and happier for being in it. That’s a 2-way street. There are dips and valleys in every relationship. But to be as upset and, as you said, scared is absolutely no way to go thru life. I wish you comfort and peace in whatever decision you make.  

It's never too late to leave, you're never too old to live. Life's too short to be miserable. We all deserve all the good things: you too! You don't need to settle for this. It will be hard and you'll be sad, but trust me, what lies ahead is SOOOOO much better. I left a horrible relationship that sounded much like you've posted 18 years ago. After losing the dead weight I found someone again, had kids, great job, better health all around. All the best to you! You can do it! 

Thank you everyone.  

hes trying to manipulate you and that is no way to live. i could echo what every one else said. Listen to your intuition!!  

This saddens me to read. I will pray for healing for you and your husband. Our world is in a state of chaos and everyone is being affected emotionally. It is so difficult to go through these types of challenges. May you find peace in your own heart.  

So sad that you are living just waiting for the next shoe to fall. So, have you guys gone for counseling? So often a narcissist will refuse because they are doing something wrong, it's all on you. Hugs! 

Look up the "National violence Hotline" website and read "what is abuse?" then call them 800-799-SAFE to talke with a free counselor and also ask for local abuse center numbers to attend free counseling without your husband knowing.  

One thing I’ve noticed in these type of situations whenever the wife tries to leave. Sometimes the husband gets violent and could even result in death possibly not saying that’s your situation and I’m not telling you not to leave I’m telling you if you do leave you probably need some sort of help or guidance on how to do it to protect yourself. Thinking of you at this time.💗😐 

I’m so sorry you are going through this. When you feel like you have done everything in your power to preserve your marriage and are up against a partner who refuses counseling, dismisses his wrong doing, hasn’t changed, wakes you up in the middle of the night to argue, threatens to harm himself, scares you and has unpredictable mood swings…in my opinion you have 3 options. Give him an ultimatum regarding couples therapy, individual therapy, or anger management. Leave him. Stay with him. The decision is yours to make. I have been in a similar situation, and we went to couples therapy, I chose to stay with him another year, he escalated to physical violence, and I left him. That was 21 years ago. I am happily remarried and at peace, in love, safe, respected, and cherished. I am praying for you. 🙏🏼🩷 

I've said more in other posts you've put here. I'm so sorry you have to endure this. He seems selfish. Me ex was controlling etc. I'm free finally. It was a journey. Me and my younger son is stilling from this disastersous person. So are my other elder sins though they'd never admit it. I have peace in my home and in my soul fully. I don't have to deal with arguments, abuse, selfishness, control and all the other adjectives I could. I hope you joy Thur whatever decision you make. I've said it before my former sparkers were a big part of my continued healing. They were true friends. I shared with them each step toward my divorce and they cheered me on. You deserve someone to love and cherish you are the beautiful women you are. You deserve a man who really loves you. You do what you have to. Advise be careful how you approach him about whatever decision you decide. Try not to get in face with a Dr jackle/Hyde personally they are capable of anything. Divorce can bring out the worst in people and you will see their true colors so to speak. Prayersto you sister. 

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