WisteriaSky233 's dagbok, 13 aug 23

Yeah it happens from time to time. Don’t let it get you down, just ride the wave or do a little something for yourself, some self care whether it be retail therapy, coffee and vent session with a friend or get your nails done or massage. Or get a new plant or something new to plant outside. Or a cat toy to play with that kitten of yours…. Hang in there girl, this too shall pass 

@sternfan thanks. Well it didn't help that Hubs has been hateful all afternoon. Then yelled at me twice over piddling things. I'm along in bed wondering about life and if I made the right choice. 

Gosh I’m so sorry, sending you hugs. 💜 

HUGS!!!! You need them. 

It happens, I hope today is a better day!  

Hugs to you..I understand this meh 🫤 thing…it happens to me all the time. Hang in there and give yourself grace and the room you need to process what your feeling. It’s okay not to be okay. 😘 

@teachertracey Hello fellow Tracey. I'm Traci. I wish he hadn't been ugly to me last night because it made the "meh" feeling 10x worse. I feel very distance. 

Sounds like he was retaliating. He wanted you to do something and you made another choice. That's totally your prerogative. This is a teaching moment in your relationship. As difficult as it is, don't react to his nastiness. It's the adult version of a temper tantrum. If he doesn't get the reaction he wants/expects he will eventually figure out... Don't Do That. We teach people how to treat us by our actions and reactions. Believe in yourself and your relationship. There's no fairytale happily ever after. It takes work and tender loving caring for a relationship to survive and thrive. You're stronger than you think you are. Highs and lows are unfortunately part of life. Keep putting 1 foot in front of the other, you will find yourself at the top of the hill in time. Sliding back down hurts every time. Dig In!  

@SLYONE 22 Thanks, this morning when he left I didn't bring anything up. I was surprised he even gave me a cool goodbye. We had been doing much better as the problems form last year went away. But he is under a lot of pressure at work and Sundays he gets tense. 

Good relationships require communication. Tell him how it makes you feel when he yells at you. By saying, "When you yell at me it makes me feel..." you are not putting him on the defensive, you are telling him how YOU feel. If he cares about you, he will want to work things out. Good luck.  

Lots of good tips here and support. Maybe he was offering to take the RV so you could go but be in AC?  

@Redporchlady Maybe but he was not angry before he left. It was more, you're welcome to go. I want you to go but if you don't feel like it. I really don't know what Hyde came out. 

Slyone and shirfleur have spot on advice. Relationships do require work. A long time ago i quit expecting my other half to divine how his actions were making me feel and shortly after we started dating i would call him out on his behavior that made me feel any kind of less than happy/positive way. Shocked him in the beginning but its like a dose of reality. Like, do you understand that when you (fill in the blank) it makes me feel (fill in the blank). Is that what you were wanting me to feel like? Usually that opens dialogue. Often people get upset, hurt feelings over actions or words that were interpreted incorrectly. Communication, communication. Makes for a much happier relationship with anyone you truly love be it spouse, child, parent or friend. Take a deep breath. Know you are wonderful, sweet and amazing and enjoy the rest of your day Tracy.