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A new day another nightmare. I got home from walking 3 miles last night and my husband was on the phone with his daughter and she was saying her nephew needs someone to take him in because his parents are addicted to drugs. Apparently this kid has behavioral issues. I don't even know the kid's name. My husband is torn but we made it clear getting married that kids were not part of the plan. I told him I can't do it. And it led to an awkward night. Granted he is nearly 60 and he said he didn't know if he could take in an 8 year old. I know myself and being in charge of a child is my personal nightmare. And with my hubs threatening to buy a truck and going on the road, I would be solely responsible for a child I didn't know existed until last night. Everyone that knows me says, "Hell no" to taking in this stranger. But I see my husband's pain that it is his grandkid looking to be in foster care.
He seemed angry this morning when he left for work because he is upset with himself that he is struggling about the fate of his grandkid but also our marriage. I'm just beyond upset and feel sick.
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2pm update, hubs wrote me to say he is working late. No sweetheart or I love you. I responded, "Ill see you when I see you. I love you." He saw it and no response.
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Fett: 28,50g | Prot: 21,25g | Kolh.: 80,50g.
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I hope that you can get some community support - I know in my state, grandparents have rights, and even if a child is in foster care, the grandparents can visit and monitor their situation, take them for some short visits or trips too. Maybe your husband can get some help to make that happen where you are.
07 apr 22 av medlem: abbadabba
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Sounds like a really tangled web and everyone is hurting, so sorry you all (kiddo, addicted parents, you, hubby) are going through this. Our foster care system is full of some amazingly sacrificial loving people and also many predators, I can understand why your husband is worried. There are family services you can involve and of course there is couples counseling to navigate this disagreement - a third party might see a whole different option that no one in the midst of the issue is able to. And of course if kiddo did come to live with you temporarily then husband would need to be home and take the lead on care. I’m sure that kid has a lot of trauma that needs sorting, 💯 what’s behind alleged “behavioral issues.” Saying a prayer for your whole family.
07 apr 22 av medlem: EmmaLeanAgain
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There are probably other things on your DH's mind, too: His grown child is a drug addict. His other daughter is pressuring him, despite knowing that he is always gone for work. I would encourage you to remember your boundaries, as he seems to be crossing them with the smoking and now trying to guilt you into raising his grandkid. You obviously did not sign up for all this. Personally, I would tell DH that if the kid moves in, you move out. I would start socking away divorce funds immediately. F*ck the 18 months grace period. IMAO.
08 apr 22 av medlem: JustBananas
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If it was me and my grandchild - seriously - I would get a divorce and raise my grandchild ---- seriously, if it was me - I would divorce you and raise my grandchild. Life lesson learned the hard way !!!
08 apr 22 av medlem: Jergens123
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I despise children and me husband knows this. We talked last night and he doesn't want to do it either for other reasons. For the people thinking I should take this stray kid into my home. No, hell no! Everyone thinks women need children. Nope, not this one!
08 apr 22 av medlem: WisteriaSky233
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Yeah, this situation is weird because my husband is estranged from his son and was not aware that he had gotten into rugs again and the kids and grandkids live in another state. He is nearly 60 and feels bad but isn't prepared to play daddy again and that is part of the reason he married me because I never wanted kids. We made our choices. Jergens123, please quit commenting on my page.
08 apr 22 av medlem: WisteriaSky233
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