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Yesterday at a party, someone asked me how I was doing (on my "transformation"), and I said, "51 pounds so far!" And after they said, "Congrats!" and the caterer came along with a tray of won tons, and I said, "No thanks" and the supportive person said, "Can't you just have one?" And I said, "Probably, but then I would have to take out my phone app or my journal right here at this table and write it down, and I'd rather not."
And since I was still smiling, the other person thought I was kidding and persisted, "No, really?" And I said, "Yes, really. It's how I manage my food now. It may seem odd, but it's what works for me." It was an 98 pound 5'1" Asian, super petite woman I was speaking to. Luckily, I know her well, so I was able to say, "I didn't get to be the weight I used to be (280) by NOT having a problem with food. Does that make sense?" And she thought about it and nodded. I went on. "So now, I have to be vigilant about everything I have, and that means writing down every bite. It means that some social situations like this (gesturing with my hands to the party) can be awkward when I don't eat or drink, but I just explain to the hosts and friends like you who love and support me that this is how I'm managing to lose all this weight, and then before you know it, no one really cares and we're on to the next topic."
She blinked a few times, taking this in, not knowing what to say, because this was just so bizarre for someone who eats like a freaking bird (I've seen her eat). I knew she liked to talk about TV shows, so I quickly said, "Did you see the latest episode of 'Shark Tank'?" And her eyes lit up and we started talking about that.
This is how I handle parties now. I eat before I get there and I abstain 100% from all the food and drinks. If it's good friends, they make sure I have fruit or food I can eat. But this was just a housewarming party with about 80 people and I just came by to give them a bottle of nice, re-gifted wine and pay my respects to their redecorated home. I wanted to make an appearance. So I did, but I didn't eat. I'm proud that I didn't AVOID the party, but I'm also glad I didn't INDULGE because they had amazing appies and desserts.
And I'm proud that I was able to explain my Ruplestilskin situation (i.e., I do what I need to do to get the job done). And I didn't dwell on it or harp on it like a martyr, droning on and on about how hard it is to someone who has no clue because she weighs 98 pounds. But I'm sure she has other demons. Don't we all? I couldn't help noticing that she kept asking for refills on her wine and at her size and weight, I sure hope she wasn't driving!
My personality is very open and straightforward. I don't play games or pretend. If someone pays me a compliment, I take it graciously. Maybe that helps me cope better at these social situations.
I've seen people post here that they dread parties or regret how they ate at parties and I just thought I'd share my experience at a party and see if my behavior sounds really out there or bizarre or unthinkable to anyone else? I mean, I weigh 230 pounds. It's obvious I'm heavy (it's okay, we're all friends here, we can say fat :), it's also obvious that I've lost 50 pounds. The difference between 280 and 230 IS noticeable, trust me. So at this point, people start to say things, notice the change, and it makes sense to mention that, "Yeah, I'm here at your party, I showed up, I'm having fun, but I'm just not eating your food right now, and guess what? It's all good!"
But even early on when it was the holidays and I had only lost about 15 pounds and you could barely tell, I was still letting people know, "Thanks, I'm trying to watch what I eat," and no one really cares whether you eat at their party or bowling night or girls night or not. It seems like a much bigger deal than it is. No one is huddling in the corner whispering about why you're not trying the quiche! LOL.
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Tappat hittills: 22,9 kg.
Kvarvarande: 36,5 kg.
Kosten följs: 100%.
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Fett: 56,62g | Prot: 94,04g | Kolh.: 108,55g.
Frukost: Bananas, Cottage Cheese (Lowfat 2% Milkfat), Bacon. Lunch: Starbucks Mocha Frappuccino Light, Watermelon. Middag: Cottage Cheese (Lowfat 2% Milkfat), Pineapple. Snacks/Annat: Twizzlers Sugar Free Twizzlers. mer...
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